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Stop Your Ego’s Dark Side from Crashing Your Business Growth

Starting a business is like embarking on a journey into the unknown armed with nothing but a vision. As a visionary entrepreneur, you have taken this challenge head-on and nurtured your idea into a flourishing business. Achieving this milestone is no small feat, and it speaks volumes about your determination, passion, and commitment. So, it's only natural that along this journey, you develop an ego.

The Dual Nature of Ego

Now, before you get the wrong idea, let me clarify that having an ego isn't necessarily a bad thing. In fact, your ego has played a significant role in your success story. It has been a constant source of encouragement during those long nights and early mornings. It has helped you make tough decisions, refine marketing strategies, and overcome seemingly insurmountable challenges.

However, as your business continues to grow and thrive, your ego's desire for control can become a hindrance, transforming it from a source of encouragement into a barrier that obstructs progress and growth. 

As a visionary, it's crucial to learn how to prevent your ego's negative tendencies from impeding your business's development. This is especially important when it comes time to hire a second-in-command.

The Ego’s Trap

Every Visionary eventually comes to a crossroads, a moment when the need to delegate and diversify leadership becomes glaringly apparent. This realization that it might be time to bring on a second-in-command can be unsettling. After all, you’ve been so used to playing the hero of your business for all of this time. This unease can lead to resistance from none other than your ego. 

One of the ego's most subtle tricks is creating a false narrative. Here, the ego shifts from being a motivational force to a wall of resistance, holding you back from stepping away and letting someone else steer the ship. Your ego may start whispering fears like these into your ear:

  • "You're the only one who understands this business inside and out."
  • "If you delegate, the quality will suffer."
  • "What if your second-in-command doesn't get it right?"

This resistance is often born from fear and a desire to protect the vision you’ve nurtured. But, when left unchecked, it can cause paralysis, stopping you from taking the actions needed to evolve.

5 Underlying Fears That Hold Visionaries Back

As a Integrator™, my experience with working with Visionary clients has shown that resistance to delegating to a second-in-command usually stems from a mixture of these five underlying fears:

1. Fear of Exposure

Deep down, Visionaries might harbor anxieties about their inadequacies or areas where the business may not be as structured as it should be. Bringing someone into a leadership role can feel like turning on a spotlight, revealing the less polished, messy corners of the business.

2. Fear of Vulnerability

For some Visionaries, there's a vulnerability in admitting, even implicitly, that there are aspects of the business that they couldn't manage alone. This can lead to a fear that their worth and competence as a leader might be questioned or diminished. 

3. Step Fear of Accountability

The thought of being held accountable by a second-in-command might be daunting to some Visionaries. It's not just about answering for mistakes, but also about confronting areas of the business they may have neglected or didn't handle optimally. 

4. Fear of Disconnect

Visionaries often find joy in the "doing." Being deeply involved in the day-to-day tasks creates a sense of purpose and a tangible connection with the company's heartbeat. The thought of delegating these tasks to another can spark fears of losing touch with the company's essence. 

5. Fear of Role Evolution

As other people begin managing the daily operational tasks, the business owner faces the responsibility of stepping into Visionary shoes. This evolution to focusing on the big picture and shaping the company’s future can bring about a new set of challenges and insecurities.

How to Navigate the Ego’s Minefield

Recognizing the fears that may emerge from your ego is only half the battle. The real test is confronting these fears and learning to navigate the minefield they create, ensuring your business continues its upward trajectory. Here's a roadmap to guide you through:

step 1

Acknowledge and Understand

First, acknowledge that you’re not alone in these fears. This is an almost universal entrepreneurial experience. Then, accept that these fears exist. Denial only feeds into the ego's hands. Reflect on each fear, understand its roots, and assess how it's impacting your decision-making. Self-awareness is the first step to regaining control. 

step 2

Be Transparent

There are true emotional and psychological complexities involved in the transition of delegating a leadership role to a second-in-command. Open up to your potential Integrator™ about your hesitations and expectations. An experienced Integrator™ will understand your journey and will be equipped to navigate the intricacies of working with a Visionary. 

step 3

Make Fear Your Compass

Utilize this emotional state as a filtering mechanism. Clearly define the roles, tasks, and qualities you want in your Integrator™. This will not only help you find the right fit but also reassure your ego that the future is in capable hands. 

step 4

Trust the Process

You’ve already built a successful business. Trust your judgment as you select an Integrator™. Working with a second-in-command will be a transition, so be sure to allow for an adjustment phase where both you and your Integrator™ can find the most effective way to collaborate. Then be sure to step back and give them the space they need to prove their worth.

step 5

Stay Connected With Your Vision & Celebrate The Wins

Throughout this process, you’ll want to keep your vision for your business at the forefront of everything you do. Use it as your compass to help you determine if your ego is steering you toward fear or progress. Also, don’t forget to take time to celebrate the wins achieved by delegating. This can serve as a reinforcement that the decision to bring in a second-in-command was the right one.

Final Thoughts: The Journey Beyond Ego

Every entrepreneur's journey involves a dance with ego—a balance between the drive to lead and the wisdom to delegate when necessary. Your ego got you this far, but a managed ego, teamed with a capable Integrator™, will take you further.

As you prepare for this next stage of business growth, remember: that your ego is a tool, not a master. Use it wisely, and you’ll not only build a successful business but also create a life of balanced achievement and fulfillment. 

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About the Author Brenda Violette

Brenda Violette, Founder and CEO of Violette Business Services, LLC, is a highly experienced and sought-after Fractional Integrator™ and Mentor based in Connecticut. With a remarkable track record of over 30 years in leadership, Brenda excels in administration, operations, and people management. As a relentless learner, Brenda actively engages in multiple EOS®-based Visionary/Integrator™ communities and holds esteemed memberships in the FIM (Female Integrator Mastermind) and Advanced Integrator™ Mastery Forum in Rocket Fuel. She’s also a distinguished Rocket Fuel Mastery Program graduate and a certified Kolbe Consultant™. With a keen focus on driving growth and making a positive impact beyond profit, Brenda guides Visionaries to achieve their strategic goals. Brenda brings transformative value to her clients and partners exclusively with companies operating on the Entrepreneurial Operating System® (EOS®), who are already working with an EOS® Implementer™ or have graduated from the program. Discover how Brenda can propel your business towards significant growth and sustainability while freeing you to fulfill your role as the Visionary. Visit www.BrendaViolette.com to learn more.

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